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Just when you think thing’s are improving…

Hi guys I feel like I’ve not really talked about much lately, life has been so busy between the kids and the dog and just trying to keep on top of things in general that I haven’t had a lot of time for much else.  It’s easy to bash out a post about a make up product that I love but it’s not so easy to put out a post about what’s going on especially when it’s things that you’re struggling to cope with.

I recently popped up a general life update post and I wrote about how well things were going for our son but as it turns out things aren’t going well at all.  Last Wednesday I had a call from the school asking me to go and pick your 12 year old. He’d been sent out of a few lessons and he’d been told to work in the office for the rest of the day which isn’t unreasonable really but he decided he didn’t want to do that and he took himself back off to his lesson.  When I arrived at school I was taken to the class he’d gone to to collect him but as soon as he saw me he ran off.  It took half an hour 2 teachers, 2 6th year students and the on site pcso for me to get him out of the school and into the car and we were told he wasn’t to come back in for the rest of the week.  I’m so upset at his behaviour but I thought everything was fine.  He’d been saying everything was fine and we’d not heard from the school in a few weeks so we had no reason to believe there was a problem.  It turns out he’s had multiple red cards on s daily basis for the past couple of weeks but because we’ve not heard from his head of year in weeks we didn’t know, I’m not blaming the school in any way but we were supposed to have weekly updates either on the phone or by e-mail and I feel if these had been kept up then we could have done something to prevent it getting to this level.  I didn’t prepare myself to have to deal with this kind of thing and I haven’t a clue what to do with him to be honest.  His outbursts at home have gotten worse in the past little while too and it’s putting s huge strain in everything.  My husband and I have no idea how to deal with it and often end up arguing about it which isn’t helping anything.  Luckily the school and our Dr think there’s something more going on than just having a naughty child as do we but until we have our appointment with CAMHS all we can do is try and keep things calm.  I worry every day about what’s going to happen to make him kick off as I don’t know if I could cope with it alone especially with the other kids about and I really don’t want it to impact them or for him to take his temper out on them.  I just hope we can get some help soon or he’s got no chance of getting any kind of education the way things are going.

We’re so lucky to have a big family but my god it’s hard to balance everyone’s needs at times.  We have our 4 year old getting ready to start school this year and it’s a huge transition as there weren’t any svsilable nursery places for her so she’s going straight in at the deep end, our 6 year old has been having a rather stubborn phase and added to the fact she’s been having night terrors she’s been pretty tired and very hard work lately.  Our 8 year old is pretty easy at the minute apart from her refusal to wear her glasses and hiding/losing them constantly and our 10 year old is his usual self and our main issue with him is his aversion to homework but he’s pretty excited right now as its his birthday in a few days so he’s pretty much on his best behaviour!

I know compared to some our problems are tiny but for us right now it’s a lot of hard work!

See you next time, Em xXx

One thought on “Just when you think thing’s are improving…

  1. Oh Em your problems aren’t trivial, you probably remember my posts about the boys when they were younger, but they are such great boys now and make us so proud. I don’t know what to say and have no advice. But you are doing a great job, it is so hard living with it daily and hopefully when you have your appointment you can start to get the help and support you all need x

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